About 10% of women have never experienced orgasmic pleasure. Either with a partner or during masturbation. Not surprisingly quite a few of them have found their way into my Hypnotherapy practice. That’s when I break the good news to these women; the good news is: It is possible to learn to have a hypnosis orgasm, and with practice and some persistence you can even have a hands free orgasm with erotic hypnosis.
In fact, the essential part of what they commonly need to learn is how to let go of past experiences and patterns they have created. This makes their mind go back to past experiences during an erotic experience and confirms what happened the last time they had a sexual experience, either through masturbation or trying to climax then orgasm.
This brings me to an essential point about the difference between a climax and an orgasm, I explain in more details further down, but basically, you can have one, without the other. A climax is the pelvic floor muscles contracting,pulsing rapidly and firm, where an orgasm is when all the muscles relax, sending a massive wave of pleasure through your body. Because at the peak of the orgasm, it’s your mind that provides all the pleasure, this is reasonably simple to replicate in a deep hypnotic trance.
There can be medical reasons for the lack of climax or orgasm; I find mostly its a mind over matter issue though. If you can remove the past blockages and set new processes in place, then having real intense and long-lasting orgasms can be possible for a lot of women.
The first and most important lesson is to practice developing a balance of tension and relaxation when you want to come. But, many women want to know how they can tense and relaxed their muscles at the same time? It’s an important question, and here is my full answer:
The difference between a climax and an orgasm.
Step 1: How to Have an Orgasm: tight up those muscles
The type of tension that helps women have intense orgasms is muscle tension. Many women have the misconception that they should relax and “lie still” because they’ve heard that if you relax during sex, it helps. But this can be the cause of well, nothing happening. It turns out that muscle tension can assist in climaxing and triggering the orgasm. In my experience, the majority of women learn to have their first orgasm by practising tightening and relaxing all the muscling in their legs but and pelvic floor.
It’s then no surprise, women tell me that the most intense orgasm-inducing muscle contractions are in their pelvic floor muscles. These are the same muscles you squeeze to stop urine midstream you may have heard of an exercise called a Kegel exercise. Well, that’s it.
So then what is the connection between tensing muscles and having an orgasm? It’s arousal. Contracting (or tensing) specific muscles increases blood flow throughout the body and often to the genital area. Then arousal is the next step that helps most women to orgasm.
Step 2: How to Have an Orgasm: Relax
So, how the hell do you do that while having sex? By merely programming your mind to focus on feeling the sensation of the stimulation.
Have a hard time relaxing? Erotic hypnosis comes to the rescue. If we can remove all the past blocks and bad habits under hypnosis, then reprogram the mind to create new relaxing experiences. TADA! Its orgasm time.
After listening to the first lesson, I suggest that the client take a day or so to practice doing some of the exercises I mention above and then repeat listening to the session 2 – 3 times in the first week. After that, either pleasure yourself or begin to have sex slowly. I find that it’s not uncommon for a woman to need to keep listening to the session frequently for a few months before they are reaching intense orgasm every time they have a sexual encounter. They are also able to master hands-free orgasm using erotic hypnosis